If anyone is still around, thank you! As you may or may not have noticed it’s been a few weeks since I posted last. At first I just assumed it was the post-vacation blues. We all get them. The smack of reality that comes when you have to return to work after an amazing vacation always bums me out. But, after about a week of that not going away, I realized that it was just the regular old blues.
Do you ever fall out of love with life? Like, you just want to mope around and be a bummer? I get in those funks sometimes and today I wanted to share with you all how I fall back in love with myself and life. Normally, I wouldn’t share things like this but over the years I’ve taught myself some tricks to help me pull back into the real world and I wanted to share them. I know that when i’m feeling depressed all I want is to feel normal again and I hope that maybe this will help someone who is also having a rough time.
// Do something to make yourself laugh every single day
When i’m feeling depressed it’s hard to laugh sometimes so I go out of my way to make it happen. Whether it’s hanging out with your friends, watching a tv show or just reading a funny article on Buzzfeed. Just do it. I personally really enjoy watching YouTube when i’m bummed. Just try to have a bad time when you’re laughing. Who doesn’t love to laugh?
// Make plans with your friends, even if you don’t feel like it
Fake it till you make it baby. And trust me, it really works. Even on your most miserable days spending some quality time with a friend can really make a difference. Grab a bite to eat, go watch a movie, or just hang out and sip on a coffee. It’ll get you out of the house and out in the world.
// Come up with an affirmation or mantra for yourself
Yep. It may seem hokey but I do it and it helps. The more you repeat something the more you start to believe it. So, the next time you’re thinking something negative about yourself swap that phrase out for something positive.
// Change up your clothes/makeup/hair/nails
Anything. Just change something (not permanently) about your appearance. Sure, it may be a lame way to coax some compliments out of people but it works. People seem to love the curls. It’s nice to get a compliment and, it helps to reaffirm that people are paying attention. So go ahead, try out that bold lipstick or rock those faux leather leggings you’ve been wanting to wear.
// Keep a journal
I have a planner that I use to write down what I did every single day. It’s only a small space so there’s no room for any fluffy details which really helps me to just talk about big highlights. Doing this every day allows me to notice patterns. For example, if I say I had a miserable day at work 3 days in a row I can flag that and try to fix it before it becomes a problem.
// Accept that it’s okay to not feel okay
This one is especially hard for me. I feel like I should be happy and grateful all the time so when i’m not I become extra miserable. The sooner you allow yourself to just be you’ll start to feel a bit better. We can’t all be happy all the time.
// Stop comparing yourself to others.
Everyone is living their own life. Comparing yourself to others just leads to a crappy mood for me. It’s hard to feel great about things when you feel like others are doing better. It’s so easy to throw a pity party for yourself (i’m guilty!) so try to work hard at reminding yourself of all of the good things in your life. Make a list if you have to!
Ugh, I know. It’s hard enough to just get on with the day when you’re feeling down but, a great way to stop feeling bad is to get those endorphins pumping! Go for a run, lift some weights or even just stretch and do some body weight exercises (i’m about 2 weeks behind on the TIU girls October Challenge but i’m trying!). Any movement is better than sitting your booty on the couch. Plus, if you’re anything like me and love to eat your feelings you’ll be happy you’re adding in some workouts.
// Write down some goals
Whether they be small daily goals like “do the dishes”, or bigger, monthly goals like “go out to dinner with friends” of “visit your grandparents” write them down and do them! I know a lot of us are planners and list makers and it’s especially important to keep that up when you’re feeling down. Setting reminders to yourself keeps you (me) on track and out of that cozy bed.
// Fake it until you make it
I hate to say it, but it works. For realz you guys. Act happy until you are happy. It’s pulled me out of slumps more times than I can count. Work is not the place to mope around so act like you’re having the time of your life. Your positive attitude will rub off on other people and it’ll make you feel better.
Bonus: If all else fails, make your mom take pictures of you in a fall outfit to try and overcome your hatred of being photographed. Looking at 60+ unflattering photos will help you be happy for sure. :-]
Question of the day:
What do you guys do to get out of that slump? Let me know in the comments!
Linking up with Sarah- Check out her post here!